Doomscrolling is Stealing Your Joy—Here’s What to Do Instead (Especially During Wedding Planning)
If you’ve ever picked up your phone “just to check one thing”… and suddenly 45 minutes disappeared—welcome to the world of doomscrolling. Doomscrolling is when we scroll through social media (or the news) so long that we start feeling overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated, or just emotionally drained… but we can’t seem to stop. And here’s the truth: wedding planning is already emotional enough. Add doomscrolling, and suddenly you’re comparing your wedding to strangers online, stressing about trends, and second guessing everything. At Berkshire Ridge, we believe your wedding season should be full of peace, excitement, love, and real-life moments, not pressure and constant comparison.
So today, we’re talking about how to break the doomscrolling habit—and what to do instead.
Why Doomscrolling Hits Brides So Hard
Wedding planning creates the perfect storm:
you’re excited, but stressed
you’re trying to do it “right”
every video shows a wedding that looks like it cost $100,000
trends change every week
someone always has a “better” idea
and the algorithm convinces you there’s always more you must do
But the most magical weddings aren’t the ones with the most trends… They’re the ones where the couple is truly present.
Let’s Normalize This: Your Wedding Doesn’t Need to Be “TikTok Perfect.”
It needs to be YOU perfect.
It needs to feel like:
your love story
your people
your laughter
your joy
Not a copy of a viral reel.
10 Things To Do Instead of Doomscrolling (That Actually Helps Wedding Planning)
Here are simple swaps that bring you back into real life:
1) Make a “Wedding Vision” Note (Not a Pinterest Spiral)
Write 5 words that describe your wedding vibe, like: romantic, warm, timeless, candlelit, country-elegant
Now every decision becomes easier.
2) Schedule One Wedding Planning Hour (Then Stop)
Pick one hour per week for decisions. Outside that time? Enjoy being engaged.
3) Go Walk the Venue Grounds (Or Any Nature!)
You’d be shocked how much clarity comes from being outside.
4) Start a “Real Moments” Photo List
Instead of obsessing over trends, make a list like:
dad seeing bride
grandma hugging groom
laughter at the sweetheart table
sunset couple photos
guests dancing under lights
5) Create a Playlist With Your Fiancé
Not wedding songs—your relationship songs.
6) Write Your Vows in Pieces
Instead of pressuring yourself all at once, write a few lines anytime inspiration hits.
7) Watch Your Wedding Video… Before Your Wedding
Sounds weird, but imagine it: What do you want to FEEL when you watch it later?
That’s what matters.
8) Make a “No Comparison” Rule
Unfollow accounts that make you feel:
behind
not enough
pressured
broke
stressed
You’re allowed.
9) Plan One “Phone-Free Date”
Even one evening a week with no phones feels like a reset.
10) Remember: Guests Don’t Care About Trends
They care about:
food
comfort
love
fun
the atmosphere
And Berkshire Ridge? That atmosphere is what we do best.
A Little Reminder From Us at Berkshire Ridge
Wedding planning doesn’t have to feel like a performance.
We hope you remember this: The magic isn’t on the screen. It’s in the moment. So take the picture, post your favorite one…
And then put the phone down. Because this season of life? You only get it once.
From Our Venue to Your Love Story - Kim
Berkshire Ridge is a locally owned and operated business just south of St. Louis, Missouri. We sincerely hope to encourage our couples to learn more about the value and importance of choosing a locally owned business when it is time to book your wedding venue and vendors. Locally owned venues will offer a high level of hospitality, attentive communication and a desire to ensure your wedding exceeds expectations. We are thrilled to support wedding venue owners from around the country with a shout out in our blog!
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